Friday, February 10, 2012

my (current) pet peeve

i have a pet peeve. and it goes something like this....

it seems that a lot of home-educated young people have forgotten how to interact with those of the opposing gender. --- the guys go off in their circle, and the girls to their cliques. it is as though either group is so afraid that talking to those, of the opposite gender, is borderline flirting! so they end up on the other end of the pendulum.--- neither group really makes any effort to make eye contact, smile or speak with the other group. don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that young ladies should start to talk about their deepest secrets/dreams with young men, and vice versa. but at least say "hello" and try to converse on topics more academic.

does this bug you too?


Allison said...



Be Thou My Vision said...

Good, glad to know that I'm not the only one... ;0

Sara said...

Yes! It is nice to know that there are others that have noticed this. :) Sometimes it feels like everyone has forgotten that we're supposed to be treating guys as brothers (and guys are supposed to be treating us as sisters -1 Tim 5:1-2-), and that we talk to our brothers! I personally don't try to avoid talking to my real brothers because they're a 'guy'. ;) Guys have different views than girls do and they can approach subjects and come up with things that we never would have thought of! (Likewise, we can do the same with them.) Some of my most thought-provoking conversations have come from talking to my brothers in Christ.

There definitely is a line that can't be crossed, though, as you mentioned, Jo. :) If I have a personal issue, I'm not going to go find one of my guy friends and pore out my heart to him. ;)

Thank you for so eloquently writing what I have been thinking for so long! I always had a hard time trying to explain this to people. They would always just look at me like I was crazy. ;)

Be Thou My Vision said...


Thanks for the sweet comment. It is a 'sticky' topic to deal with, and one quite hard to explain to others. :) I had a hard time writing it all out in a way that would make sense to others.

Jo <3

Alice said...

oh it makes me mad. just plain mad. Im very social and outgoing and I CANNOT stand when this sort of thing happens. you put it perfectly too, thanks!

Be Thou My Vision said...


Well, it's not so much to me that I'm very social. It's just that I'm sure some of these young people will have a rude awakening when they get older and married, because they haven't learned to communicate very well with the opposing gender.

Thanks for commenting! :)

God bless!!

Michelle McDevitt said...

I know what you mean, but thankfully this isn't as much of an issue in my homeschool group. (CHEF Missouri) We actually have English Country Dancing practices and Balls, so that really helps with guy-girl interaction. One thing I love about the dancing is the chivalry of it all. Only guys ask girls to dance, unless girls are dancing with each other.

Be Thou My Vision said...


We do go to ECD practices nearly once a month, and true, this is not so much an issue at such events.

I am also thankful that I have 3 brothers, and grew up around a majority of guy friends, so I do know how to interact (to a certain degree) with guys. That is not to say that I have everything figured out when it comes to that area of life. Quite to the contrary.

I too like how chivalrous dancing is. :)